My story: Salary in lakhs but still he does not give a single penny for expenses, what should I do with this miserly husband?

Ananya Shroff
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Question: It has been 8 years since my marriage. I used to work in a 5 star hotel before marriage. But due to pressure from my in-laws, I had to leave the job and I remained a housewife for many years. My husband is in the merchant navy and his salary is in lakhs, but he used to give me only 10 thousand rupees for expenses. Now after so many years, when I somehow started working, he stopped giving me money.

They neither give me money for clothes nor for medicines. When I ask for money, the answer I get is that you earn so why should I give. My salary is 20 thousand rupees but still they expect me to save money. I am managing my expenses with this little money and my husband also keeps asking for something or the other. I have to spend money for the family too. I don't understand what to do because my husband does not understand my problem.

Not giving money for expenses even when you have it, taunting about your income is really a problem. In such a situation, we have raised this question of the user. Vishal Bharadwaj, Founder and Relationship Coach, Predictions for Success I spoke to them. They told me how to deal with this problem. (All pictures are symbolic, we keep the identity of the users in the story shared by them confidential)

Explain the problem to your husband

The most important thing in this problem is that you explain to your husband how you use money properly. Talk to your husband honestly and tell him what your financial needs are. You are working for your needs, your confidence is increasing and you are also moving forward. Apart from this, make your husband realize his responsibilities.

Prepare a monthly budget

It is easier to understand anything logically, so make a detailed budget that includes every expense of your month. Now show this budget to them so that they can understand the financial constraints. Since their salary is high, they have to pay a large part of the household expenses, explain this to them lovingly.

Convince your husband

Convince your husband

The foundation of any relationship is trust, even a slight decrease in trust can lead to problems in the relationship. It is possible that their trust has diminished due to some mistake of yours, that is why they are afraid of giving you money. In such a situation, you will have to increase your trust in them. You will have to assure them that you use money according to your need.

Seek help from friends and relatives

Seek help from friends and relatives

Trusted family members or friends can also help you at this time. With the help of these people, it will be easy for you to explain everything to your husband. Also, you should focus on your job. Look for opportunities to advance in your career, this will not only increase your salary but will also increase your confidence.

Open a joint account

Open a joint account

If they talk to you about savings, give them the option of opening a joint account in which both of you can contribute a certain percentage of your salary. This will ensure transparency and shared responsibility for household expenses. Apart from this, planning and communication are also essential to solve this problem.

See a counselor or lawyer

See a counselor or lawyer

If the above advice does not work for you, you can seek the help of a marriage counselor. Professional counseling can help improve communication between the two of you and provide effective ways to resolve differences. Still, if the husband refuses financial support, consult a lawyer. Know your legal rights as a wife.

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